How about, let other people make their own decisions?

by VelvetFletcher on January 6, 2014

in People are annoying

Wedding Transport by Cleopold on FlickrIf you’ve been online at all the last week, you would have seen the piece titled “23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Married At 23” going viral.

Excuse me while I go and vomit on some concrete somewhere.

Here’s the thing:

If you feel like telling your friends how to live their life and/or judging them for their decisions, you’re an arsehole. A whiny bitter baby arsehole who cares more about her own feelpinions than your friends happiness. It smacks of “I’m worried no one will ever want to marry me!” and “But they can’t be happy because they’re so young!”

Repeat after me:

People are different and that’s okay. Other people make different decisions and that is also okay. No one wants to live my life and I should stop trying to live other people’s lives for them.

Repeat until you have it straight.

“I have begun to notice a common thread amongst all these young unions: inexperience.  Inexperience with dating, traveling, risks, higher education, career direction, SEX, solitude, religious exploration, etc… and it’s insane that I have already experienced more of the world in the last 22 years than my married peers will ever experience in their life.”.

You’re adorable, with your assumptions right there.

I don’t quite know why you think that marriage is going to stop them living their lives. Do married couples just sit on the couch all day and never do anything?

You don’t need to sleep with a hundred guys to be sexually experienced, or to learn how to satisfy yourself. I’m not saying you can’t sleep with 100 guys, or shouldn’t, I’m just saying you don’t have to.

Marriage isn’t the end of your life. Marriage doesn’t stop you traveling, finding yourself, having amazing sex, pursuing higher education, or having a career.

A spouse is not a millstone around your neck, dragging you down to the bottom of the ocean until you both drown for want of a new experience.

The writer goes on to exclaim that “she is responsible for her own happiness.”

AWESOME. Accept that other people are responsible for their own happiness too, and their version of happy is not a cookie cutter version of yours. Frankly I have no desire to see China, so you know, suck it.

And finally, if you are the kind of person who honestly suggests that people should “Date two people at once and see how long it takes to blow up in your face” then you’re not someone who ought to be getting married right now because you are not a good person yet.

Dating two people at once SOLELY to cause a blowup? You’re an idiot.


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